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When You Are Merely Existing And Not Truly Living

God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well. – Voltaire

Self-advancements and self-evaluations are such vital parts of life. The good thing about personal growth is that we continuously improve ourselves and become better versions of our former self; growth is indeed a beautiful thing. Personally,  I love any form of self-development, whether it comes from a book, a song, a conversation, or even a blog post!

August 2016, I read a blog post on Amber Janae’s website that spoke to me directly about the truths on ‘merely existing and not truly living’ and after I read that blog post I decided to have a self-evaluation to change my way of living (I haven’t reached my goal yet, but I am getting close to it).  Making the blog post on this section felt absolutely right!

Let’s jump on the post… five signs to know if you are merely existing and not truly living.

You Wake Up and You’re Not Excited Every day:

We all have terrible days, it’s a given. I think the only time my day goes downhill is in traffic on my commute to work or dealing with a coworker when I get to the office. But, even in those cases, I have found healthy ways to not let life change how I feel internally. Besides the above, I genuinely wake up every day and I am excited about life. It’s just something about the feeling of being blessed to wake up, breathing and able. You’re not fully living if you’re not excited to be living every day.

You’re Staying Glued to Your Comfort Zone:

I was once that woman you couldn’t force into anything other than what I was accustomed to. Trying new things was so foreign to me, in all honesty, is scared me. In order to truly live and not just exist, you have to grow out of being comfortable. You have to release your fear of broadening your horizons. To live means to grow beyond what you are used to. If you’re not creating new experiences you’re not growing and if you’re not growing you’re not truly living.


You’re Not Open to Making New Friends and/or Connections:

Sometimes it’s the people you’re afraid of opening up to that have the power to change your life in more positive ways than one. I’ve discovered in the last two years that life is all about timing. It’s really all about being in the right place at the right time. I’ve made amazing connections over the years, amazing friends who’ve turned into my sisters and brothers. Had I stayed closed off to the idea that at my age new bonds can’t be created I don’t know where I’d be. We have to dead that “no new friends mindset.” It is very often the new people in our life that open us up to grand possibilities.

You’re Too Glued to Your Phone:

The best days/nights are the ones you don’t have time to tweet or snap chat about. I love when I get home and realise 22 hours have gone by since my last tweet and I’ve genuinely revelled in the presence of the amazing people around me. Nothing compares to going out, enjoying life and not living to document everything to prove you have a life. Don’t get me wrong, I will get a group photo and a selfie because the way my outfits are set up I have to lol. But, it just means so much more when you’re actually living in the moments and not just pretending to.

You’re Living a Life You Don’t Want to Be Living:

You have to be excited about your life to desire to want to exhaust it to its full possibilities. Are you stuck in a job you hate, but can’t seem to find the courage to start seeking a better opportunity? Are you tired of the same routine, but haven’t been working toward creating a new refreshing one? Are just tired of feeling like everyone around you, but you is enjoying life? One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned in the last few years is that everything you need is within you. What you are internally you attract. So if you’re praying for something that has yet to come your way it means that you aren’t as prepared to receive it as you think you are. That goes for new people and new things. The essentials you need to live an amazing life can never and will never be bought. What God blesses us with, the blessings in our lives that don’t decrease in value you can’t buy. Expand your mind, drop your comfort zones and live. Death to just existing, get out in the world and LIVE!

Kindly be reminded that I didn’t write the above signs, It was written by Amber Janae and I hope you were blessed reading it like I was? Do you have anything you would like to share? Please use the comment box…

stay blessed!

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